Saturday, October 28, 2006
R-E-S-P-E-C-T! Here's what it means to me...
Yo, boys! LISTEN UP! And listen good! This article is about respect, respect for women. Yeah, you heard me right – RESPECT FOR WOMEN! You remember us, the fairer sex…I’m not talkin’ ‘bout yo’ momma, I’m talkin’ ‘bout the ones you get sex from? Yeah, I thought that would make you remember us!
Ok, now that I have your attention…I’ve got to tell you something that has been on my mind lately. And yeah, it’s all about respect, or rather, lack of it. It’s hard being a single woman today. You’ve got to have it all because society demands it – education, job, looks, friends, money in the bank, and a great social life to boot. But the one thing you don’t get to have because no one seems to demand it anymore is respect, especially from the men you date.
For example: I went on a date a few weeks ago with a guy I met online. (Yes, even this diva dates online.) I happened to have had passes to a new movie that was coming out soon, so I invited this guy to go with me. What the heck, I thought. It’s a free movie for him, so if we don’t hit it off immediately, we don’t have to speak to each other, and if we do hit it off, we can go for coffee or dinner after the movie and get to know each other better. (By the way, you should know that I’m not the type of girl who sleeps with a guy on the first date, but maybe on the second.)
So, we meet at the theater. And within 10 minutes after getting to our seats, he gets a phone call on his cell, apparently from someone in his office (now, mind you, it’s after 6 PM) saying how they desperately need him to come back and how the project can’t be finished without him. This conversation goes on for two plus minutes as he discusses back and forth with the person on the phone how he’s on a date and really doesn’t want to leave. Suddenly he hangs up, looks at me, says he’s sorry, and then says he’s got to go. After the conversation I just witnessed, there was no way I didn’t think he wasn’t going to leave! I couldn’t believe that he stayed so long already! He was so full of BS, I was about ready to kick him out myself! Even the person next to me couldn’t believe the conversation! Yup, you got it! I was a victim of a cell phone date scam!
But wait, it gets EVEN BETTER! I get an email from this jerk-off the next day tell me how it “wasn’t going to work out” (as if I couldn’t have figured that out myself!). He actually told me that I had “a lot to offer someone” (how would he know when he barely sat down long enough to get to know me?! All he read was a profile and had a 20-minute phone conversation with me!) and that I would “make someone very happy someday [he was] sure.” Then he went on to tell me that it “had nothing to do with looks specifically” and in the next breath said I looked nothing like my photo (which all of my friends and co-workers say that I look exactly like my photo). Regardless of all of these statements (and I’ll tell you what I said back to him in a moment), it’s the fact that he had the AUDACITY to even email me, to try to make himself feel better, after leaving a situation like that. THE WHOLE SITUATION SMACKED OF COMPLETE AND UTTER DISRESPECT! He couldn’t just tell me the truth from the beginning – that there was no chemistry, he wasn’t interested or that he really just didn’t want to stay. I’m a grown up, I can handle the truth. (And to be honest, I didn’t feel chemistry either!)
My response back to him was: “Thanks so much for emailing me. I’m so glad that you felt the need to make yourself feel better by trying to apologize to me for your sub-human behavior, especially after you did such a completely disgusting thing, leaving like that. I hope you feel like an utter asshole. Please know that I will inform as many women as I know of your email address with your photo so that they know NOT to go out with you, as I don’t want them to become a victim of your cell phone date scam either. Take care. And PS – I can’t imagine that you would be very good in bed with an ego your size.”
So men-children out there, and I know that there are plenty of you babies out there, PAY ATTENTION! RESPECT THE WOMEN IN YOUR LIVES – whether they are mothers, sisters, wives, girlfriends, friends, neighbors, whoever…You don’t want to be on the receiving end of an email response (from me or any other pissed off babe) like this…YOUR FRIENDS WILL FIND OUT! AND YOU WILL BE HUMILIATED! BE KIND TO EACH OTHER! ‘NUFF SAID!
Ok, now that I have your attention…I’ve got to tell you something that has been on my mind lately. And yeah, it’s all about respect, or rather, lack of it. It’s hard being a single woman today. You’ve got to have it all because society demands it – education, job, looks, friends, money in the bank, and a great social life to boot. But the one thing you don’t get to have because no one seems to demand it anymore is respect, especially from the men you date.
For example: I went on a date a few weeks ago with a guy I met online. (Yes, even this diva dates online.) I happened to have had passes to a new movie that was coming out soon, so I invited this guy to go with me. What the heck, I thought. It’s a free movie for him, so if we don’t hit it off immediately, we don’t have to speak to each other, and if we do hit it off, we can go for coffee or dinner after the movie and get to know each other better. (By the way, you should know that I’m not the type of girl who sleeps with a guy on the first date, but maybe on the second.)
So, we meet at the theater. And within 10 minutes after getting to our seats, he gets a phone call on his cell, apparently from someone in his office (now, mind you, it’s after 6 PM) saying how they desperately need him to come back and how the project can’t be finished without him. This conversation goes on for two plus minutes as he discusses back and forth with the person on the phone how he’s on a date and really doesn’t want to leave. Suddenly he hangs up, looks at me, says he’s sorry, and then says he’s got to go. After the conversation I just witnessed, there was no way I didn’t think he wasn’t going to leave! I couldn’t believe that he stayed so long already! He was so full of BS, I was about ready to kick him out myself! Even the person next to me couldn’t believe the conversation! Yup, you got it! I was a victim of a cell phone date scam!
But wait, it gets EVEN BETTER! I get an email from this jerk-off the next day tell me how it “wasn’t going to work out” (as if I couldn’t have figured that out myself!). He actually told me that I had “a lot to offer someone” (how would he know when he barely sat down long enough to get to know me?! All he read was a profile and had a 20-minute phone conversation with me!) and that I would “make someone very happy someday [he was] sure.” Then he went on to tell me that it “had nothing to do with looks specifically” and in the next breath said I looked nothing like my photo (which all of my friends and co-workers say that I look exactly like my photo). Regardless of all of these statements (and I’ll tell you what I said back to him in a moment), it’s the fact that he had the AUDACITY to even email me, to try to make himself feel better, after leaving a situation like that. THE WHOLE SITUATION SMACKED OF COMPLETE AND UTTER DISRESPECT! He couldn’t just tell me the truth from the beginning – that there was no chemistry, he wasn’t interested or that he really just didn’t want to stay. I’m a grown up, I can handle the truth. (And to be honest, I didn’t feel chemistry either!)
My response back to him was: “Thanks so much for emailing me. I’m so glad that you felt the need to make yourself feel better by trying to apologize to me for your sub-human behavior, especially after you did such a completely disgusting thing, leaving like that. I hope you feel like an utter asshole. Please know that I will inform as many women as I know of your email address with your photo so that they know NOT to go out with you, as I don’t want them to become a victim of your cell phone date scam either. Take care. And PS – I can’t imagine that you would be very good in bed with an ego your size.”
So men-children out there, and I know that there are plenty of you babies out there, PAY ATTENTION! RESPECT THE WOMEN IN YOUR LIVES – whether they are mothers, sisters, wives, girlfriends, friends, neighbors, whoever…You don’t want to be on the receiving end of an email response (from me or any other pissed off babe) like this…YOUR FRIENDS WILL FIND OUT! AND YOU WILL BE HUMILIATED! BE KIND TO EACH OTHER! ‘NUFF SAID!
